Do you believe in Santa Claus?
I’ll bet the answer is no.
But perhaps there was a time when you went through what over two billion people have gone through:
Believing in Santa Claus.
Believing that a rotund man in a red velvety suit with a white beard and spectacles circles the globe on a sleigh pregnant with gifts, propelled forward by a herd of flying reindeer.
You might have even written a letter to this fictitious character or left him cookies and milk with a side of carrots for the reindeer as my nephew has. Or perhaps sat on his lap and gotten your picture taken with Santa himself (as I have), believing you were in the presence of the great and mighty Santa Claus, giver of gifts to children nice but not naughty.
As I began to learn about my mind and my thoughts and I came to question limiting beliefs that I had long held, believing in Santa Claus came to mind.
So often my clients and I can cite “proof” for our point of view – whether that evidence comes from the agreement of friends and family members, the popular culture, the nightly news or events in our lives.
But let me just say that right now there are millions of children who believe in Santa Claus and think he is as real as the toys they play with or the clothes they wear.
Santa Claus is as real to those children as your “horrible boss” or your “controlling mother-in-law” or the belief that “life is unfair” or “there’s never enough time” might be to you.
Those children dream of Santa Claus, think of him fondly, talk to him in their minds or at the mall, want something from him, think that he will be landing on their roofs this Christmas Eve, and that they will be opening gifts personally delivered by him on Christmas morning.
But do those beliefs make him real?
Not to me.
But he sure as heck is real to the children who believe in him.
Just as the outdated or limiting beliefs you hold are real to you.
So when you’re working with your coach. And she questions one of your limiting beliefs:
If I weigh ____, I’m a failure.
If I owe ____, I’m a loser.
The reason I don’t have or can’t have ____, is because of ____.
Just because you’ve got a lot of proof and agreement for your limiting and possibly (very) painful beliefs, doesn’t mean that what you believe in is any more real than Santa Claus.